Feel free to criticize me in the comments, because I probably deserve it.
I (21F) made a mistake when I tried to take a tissue with leftover grapes from my dog. Grapes are toxic to dogs, so I moved quickly to get it out of her mouth. Unexpectedly, she growled and then snapped at me, leaving a small mark on my hand. This shocked me because she’s always been the calmest dog I’ve ever had, never showing any signs of aggression. In the heat of the moment and out of fear, I reacted by punching her in the face and shouting, “WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU?” I immediately regretted it as soon as I saw her trembling. I showered her with treats, hugs, and apologies (I know dogs don’t understand English, but I was desperate).
Now, I’m having a full-blown panic attack and regret my actions deeply. I called in sick to work because I feel absolutely awful, like I’ve done something irreparable. What should I do now? Have I damaged our bond beyond repair?
By the way, she’s currently playing with my other dog and seems fine, but I know she might not be okay with me.
Your dog just replied to how scared you were. Because you’re so scared, she will think “Oh no, something is wrong!” and start to freak out too. Just work on “drop it,” and the next time, say “drop it” quietly. You can hit her if she doesn’t listen, but try not to get too angry about it.
It sounds like you’re going through a really tough time, and it’s understandable to feel guilt after such a moment of panic and stress. It’s important to remember that dogs are incredibly resilient and forgiving creatures, and while your reaction was out of character for you, it’s likely that with consistent love and gentle behavior, your bond with your dog will heal. Continue to show her affection, maintain your usual routine, and perhaps consult with a vet or a professional trainer for advice on handling such situations in the future. Most importantly, be kind to yourself; acknowledging your mistake and wanting to make amends is already a big step towards making things right.
This is why it is so crucial to teach a strong “drop it” technique. I think everything will work out for you and your dog; just watch out for the grapes the next time.