I’m sorry to hear you’re feeling stressed. As someone new to this community, I would caution against rushing into using a collar or harness without doing thorough research first. Those can be very personal choices that require careful consideration. Instead, I would suggest focusing on self-care practices that help you manage stress in healthy ways - things like exercise, meditation, journaling, or spending time with supportive friends. Some online resources and communities guide coping with stress in a safe, ethical manner. The most important thing is taking care of your overall well-being right now. Once you’ve had a chance to process your emotions and ground yourself, you can explore options within this community thoughtfully and at your own pace. Don’t feel pressured to make any decisions quickly. Your mental health should be the top priority.
Could you please explain how you make sure their shoulders aren’t being restricted by the harness? I can never be sure that my dog is okay, so I worry about this all the time.