I’ve observed changes in my dog Rhino’s behavior lately. He whines, barks, growls, or pushes other pets or people away from me. It seems like he’s becoming jealous since we adopted a new cat, dividing the attention and affection he used to get. I’m seeking advice on how to handle Rhino and help him understand that other pets and people also deserve attention, not just him.
You’re an invaluable resource, providing food, snuggles, and opening doors for bathroom breaks or walks. Rocky won’t want to share you with a newcomer who takes up some of his time with you.
Reward Rocky for any good or calm behavior around Adrian. Ensure that he benefits whenever she is present. If she approaches you, reward him (or have someone else reward him). If you’re playing with her and he comes over, shower him with rewards. Make sure your attention becomes more rewarding for him when she’s around.
Training classes are great, but for this situation, you’ll need a trainer to come to your home. Many dogs don’t guard resources as fiercely outside their home environment. I recommend “Mine” by Jean Donaldson, which is an excellent book on resource guarding and includes a section on owner guarding and how to address it.
By the way, the names made me chuckle.
My dogs get jealous and push each other for attention. To minimize this, I give each one individual attention. This is more fair and allows for focused training. Each dog gets a 15-minute walk or training session. This way, if one has specific issues to work on, the other isn’t corrected for it. Like kids, they’ll be jealous. Also, train them that the way to get love and attention is to sit calmly, and reward this behavior with affection while ignoring or correcting the pushy behavior.
To manage dog jealousy and aggression, be patient and consistent. Identify what triggers these behaviors—like other pets, food, or attention. Avoid these triggers when possible. Train your dog with basic commands and socialize them to reduce anxiety. Reward good behavior with treats. Set clear boundaries and manage resources like food and toys. Consult a dog trainer if issues persist. Keep your dog’s environment safe and ensure regular vet check-ups.
It’s common for dogs to react when a new pet arrives. Here are some tips to help Rhino adjust and learn to share your love:
Gradual Introduction
Separate Spaces: Initially, keep Rhino and the cat apart using baby gates or crates. Let them sniff each other through barriers to get familiar with scents.
Supervised Interactions: During supervised interactions, reward calm and curious behavior from both pets. Offer treats and praise when they show interest in each other without aggression.
Positive Reinforcement
Reward Good Behavior: Whenever Rhino interacts with the cat calmly, even through sniffing or observing from a distance, shower him with praise and treats. This reinforces positive associations with the cat.
Maintain Attention for Rhino: While introducing the new cat, dedicate specific playtime and cuddle sessions for Rhino to reassure him he’s still loved.
Management and Consistency
Leash Training: Use a leash to control Rhino during interactions and redirect him if he shows signs of aggression.
Stick to Routines: Maintain your usual routines with Rhino, including walks, playtime, and feeding schedules. Consistency helps him feel secure.
Additional Tips
Identify Triggers: Watch for situations that trigger Rhino’s jealousy and avoid them initially. For example, if mealtimes create tension, feed them separately at first.
Desensitization: Pair the cat’s presence with positive experiences for Rhino. Offer him treats or praise whenever the cat is around.
Seek Professional Help: Consider consulting a certified animal behaviorist for further guidance, especially if aggression escalates.
Patience and Persistence
Remember, this process takes time and patience. Don’t expect immediate results. By consistently rewarding positive behavior and managing interactions, you can help Rhino overcome his jealousy and learn to share your love with the new cat.